1/7/2023 Question of the day

[petrea_mitchell]

I'm Not Going to Take it Anymore Day: What gets you to the point of saying you're not going to take it anymore?

Much the same as anyone, I think: not only wanting to not take it anymore, but feeling like one has sufficient time, money, and other resources to do something about it.

Comments

[melita66]

When I was discussing something with a colleague ("G") in another colleague's office ("R") and a realization hit me. G had made statement A. Later, he said B. I questioned it. He repeated B and that he would never have said A. In a flash, his past behavior became clear--he'd done similar things before. I was enraged and said (while either pointing or shaking my fist at him), "Stop gaslighting me." and stomped off to my office next door. I later confirmed with R that we both heard the same thing.

I told my manager; G told my manager and his manager. When I next saw my manager at the company's cafe, I immediately started thinking to myself how I would discuss this with him. He just asked me, "Are you okay?" I have a long tenure at the company and definitely had a rep for an even temper. The managers told me their response to G was 'what the heck did you do? She never gets mad like that.' He finally left the team and then the company a year or so later. The whole team temperament became so much better.

[petrea_mitchell]

Hooray for that, even if it did take a while!